Questions You Should Ask On a First Date To Get To Know Someone Better

 
 
 

What you ask on a first date says a lot about you. Do you want to get to know the person better, or do you just want to make small talk? If you're looking for something more than just polite conversation, here are some questions you should ask on a first date. You might be surprised at how much someone can reveal in just a few minutes!

How would you describe your personality?

Everyone has different sides to their personality and ask how someone would describe themselves is a great way to get to know someone. This can reveal the kind of person they are; do they like adventure, love trying new things, or prefer to stay at home?

All of these answers give insight into what kind of person you're talking to and it gives each person an opportunity to talk about themselves in an interesting way. Not only is this a great conversation starter, but it also shares a bit about how much a person values self-awareness.

 
 

What are you looking for in a relationship?

Whether you're looking for a short-term fling or something more long-term, knowing what someone is looking for in a relationship can be one of the most important questions to ask on a date.

It's a good question since it helps set the groundwork for a potential relationship – plus, it might even help weed out any bad apples before getting too deep into something.

The beauty of it is that everyone has their own unique answers and ideas when it comes to what they truly want out of a relationship; so no matter who you're talking to, there's bound to be something interesting and new.

What's the best piece of advice you've ever been given and who gave it to you?

 
 
 
 

Everyone has had at least one person in their life who has imparted some wise and perhaps invaluable advice. Asking your date what the best piece of advice they've ever been given can be an enlightening question, as it may reveal something unique about yourself that you didn't know before.

Not only can it open up a meaningful conversation, but you'll get to hear your date's most cherished words of wisdom, how they interpret them, and who the sage mentor was that gave them those life-altering words. It's a fun way to get to know your date deep down and find out their personal values.

Who are you closest to in your family and why?

 
 
 
 

Talking about family can be a great conversation starter on a date. You get to learn about the person you’re with and what values they have been surrounded with their entire life.

Not to mention, everyone has hilarious stories about when they were kids! Asking who your date is closest to in their family is a great way to start getting into these stories, as more often than not there will be some aww-worthy anecdote included in the answer.

What's your favorite memory from childhood and why does it stand out to you?

 
 
 
 

One of my favorite questions to ask on a date is 'what’s your favorite memory from childhood?' It's such a great question because you get to hear stories about somebody’s past, plus everyone loves talking about themselves.

How can you not love reliving fond moments and experiences from when you were younger?

You can learn a lot about someone in just one question about their childhood: what type of person they were, how much fun they had, who inspired them etc… 

I think it's an ideal way to capture the essence of someone's childhood in an engaging and memory-stirring way!

What are some of your hobbies and interests outside of work or school?

 
 
 
 

One of the best questions to ask when meeting someone on a date is what they like doing in their spare time. Asking about hobbies and interests outside of work or school gives insight into who this person is and what matters to them.

Are they creative people, involved with their community, or love spending their time outdoors?

While the answer may seem insignificant at first, it can tell you a lot about their personality and passions – so why not give it your full attention? Plus, talking about interesting things like hobbies is a great way to find common ground with someone you're just getting to know.

Asking the right questions on a first date can mean the difference between finding out that you have a lot in common with someone or quickly realizing that there are few things you have in common. The key is to ask personal questions that go beyond the basics, such as "What do you do for work?" and "Where did you grow up?" By asking more thoughtful questions, you can get to know someone more quickly and decide if there is potential for a second date. Do you have any other good questions to ask on a first date? Let me know in the comments!

 
 

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